Question:
I would like to introduce myself. I am 25, seperated from my husband, and the mother of two children one of which is ADHD. (combined type severe) Jonathon is five, Jamie is three, and they are my life. I live in Kentucky, and I have a gentleman friend.

Before I get jumped on, "grin" I would like to make it clear that ADHD does not define my child, he is Jonathon, not a list of symptoms. It bothers me also that others can't see Jonathon for all of the good things that he is....all that they see is the child from hell.

I spent the past weekend with the man that I love. He met my children, and it was pretty obvious that he fell in love immediately with my daughter Jamie. Jamie is "normal" god don't you hate that word? I know that all of you will understand exactly what I am talking about.

When it came to my son however, well, let's just say that they both fought for dominance the whole weekend. In that respect it was a pretty miserable visit.

Anyhow, I have invested quite a bit emotionally in this gentleman, is there any suggestions as to how I can facilitate a truce between the two so that they can build a relationship? As that this man is a daddy candidate, I allowed him quite a bit of authority over my children. As one would their mate.

Answer: I am divorced from there dad (been apart since 89) and he lives with Dad and stepmom most of the time. I also have remarried. My husband has a brain injury and he and my younger son (the slug don't get along at all)

I am at the point with my kids that if my 13 year old absolutely could NOT relate in a civil way with my husband (of almost 4 years) whom I love very very much I would get rid of the husband. Especially if the husband was part of the problem (as it is in my case).

In fact, my DH left this morning since I have the kids this weekend and next weekend and we all try to keep him and the kids as far as part as possible. Up until we were married things were fine. It's just that the younger son hit 13 and the husband's brain injury deteriorated.